Archive for November, 2005

Education in Britain and The US

Tuesday, November 29th, 2005

赵宝斌 注释

In Britain all children have to go to school between the ages of 5 and 16. In the US children must go to school from the age of 6 to between the ages of 14 and 16, depending on the state they live in.

Subject

In England and Wales the subjects taught in schools are laid down by the National Curriculum(课程), which was introduced in 1988 and sets out(制定) in detail the subjects that children should study and the levels of achievement they should reach by the ages of 7, 11, 14 and 16, when they are tested. The National Curriculum does not apply in Scotland, where each school decides what subjects it will teach.

In the US the subjects taught are decided by national and local governments. Whereas British schools usually have prayers(祈祷) and religious(宗教的) instruction, American schools are not allowed to include prayers or to teach particular religious beliefs(信仰).

Examinations

At 16 students in England and Wales take GCSE examinations. These examinations are taken by students of all levels of ability in any of a range of subjects and may involve a final examination, an assessment(评价) of work done during the two year course, or both of these things. At 18 some students taken A-level examinations, usually in not more than 3 subjects. It is necessary to have A-levels in order to go to a university or polytechnic(综合技术大学).

In Scotland students take the SCE examinations. A year later, they can take examinations called HIGHS, after which they can either go straight to a university or spend a further year at school and take the Certificate(证书) of Sixth Year Studies. In Scotland the university system is different to that in England and Wales. Courses usually last four years rather than three and students study a larger number of subjects as part of their degree.

In the US school examinations are not as important as they are in Britain. Students in High Schools do have exams at the end of their last two years, but these final exams are considered along with the work that the students have done during the school years.

Social Events and Ceremonies(仪式)

In American high schools there is a formal ceremony for Graduation (=completion of high school). Students wear a special cap and gown and receive a diploma(文凭) from the head of the school. Students often buy a class ring to ear, and a yearbook, containing pictures of their friends and teachers. There are also special social events at American schools. Sports events are popular, and cheer leaders lead the school in supporting the school team and singing the school song. At the end of their junior year, at age 17 or 18, students held in the evening. The girls wear long evening dresses and the boys wear TUXEDOS.

In Britain, there are no formal dances or social occasions(场合) associated (有关) with school life. Some schools have SPEECH DAY at the end of the school year when prizes are given to the best students and speeches are made by the head teacher and sometimes an invited guest. However, in many British schools students and teachers organize(组织) informal dances for the older students.

http://epizza.open.edu.cn/sbpage/bkgr.htm 

Education in Britain

Tuesday, November 29th, 2005

In a classroomIntroduction to School Life

Education is an important part of British life. There are hundreds of schools, colleges and universities, including some of the most famous in the world.

School usually starts at nine o’clock in the morning and finishes at about three o’clock in the afternoon. Most schools in Britain require their students to wear a school uniform.

Teachers in primary schools ( 4 - 11 year olds) are always addressed by their surname by parents and pupils alike, always Mr, Mrs or Miss Smith.…. In secondary schools (11 - 16 years), teachers are always addressed as Miss or Sir.

In British schools children can usually choose between a hot or cold dinner provided by the school or a packed lunch taken from home. Some children are entitled to a free school dinner, but most children pay for theirs. A school dinner cost £1.50 (one pound and 50 pence) a day.

Schools in England and Wales follow a different curriculum than schools in Scotland.

Worksheet on British Schools for students to fill in.

Education and Schools

 An Introduction to Education in England

 Do children in England wear a school uniform? (Uniform)

 At what age do children start school in England? (Age Start)

 On what days do children in England attend school?

 What does a school look like in England? Can you take me on a virtual tour?

 What tests do the children do in a school in England? (Tests)

 The School Year

 What are the school terms and holidays in England?

 When are school vacations? How long do they last? (A School Year)

 What school events are there in a typical school year? (School Events)

 The School Day

At what time does school begin and end?

 What is a typical day in an English school like? ¦ ( Questions to answer)

 What is life like in a Secondary School ? (High School))

 What subjects are taught in a Secondary School ?

What subjects do they learn in in a Primary School? (Subjects)

What sorts of games do primary school students play during break time? (recess)

What extra-curricular activities or after school clubs are offered? (Clubs)

 Types of Schools

 What different types of schools do you have in England? (Types of Schools)

 What is the difference between Grammar and Comprehensive schools?

What is a Public School?

 Questions about Woodlands Junior School (A Typical English Primary School)

 What kind of school is Woodlands Junior School?

 At what age do children start at your school?

How many students do you have?

 How many classes do you have?

 Where is Woodlands Junior School? (Location of Woodlands Junior School)

 Is your school a public (state) or private (independent) school?

INTRODUCTION to EDUCATION in ENGLAND

 

Education is important in England. English children are required to attend school until they are 16 years old. Education is free for all children from 5 to 18. About 94 per cent of pupils in the UK receive free education from public funds, while 6 per cent attend independent fee paying schools.
All government-run schools, state schools, follow the same
National Curriculum.

The School Year
The school year is 39 weeks long and is divided into
three terms:

September to December

January to Easter The day on which this feast is observed, the first Sunday following the full moon that ccurs on or next after March 21. 复活节日:举行此盛会的日子,这个日子是321或其后月满之后的第一个星期天)

Easter to July

When do kids start school?
In general, children start school on the first day of term after they turn 5. At the age of 11, they move on to regular high schools, known as secondary schools.

When do kids finish school?
English children are required to attend school until they are 16 years old.
At the age of 16, students write an examination called the GCSE (General Certificate of Secondary Education). All students are tested in mathematics, English literature, English composition, chemistry, biology, physics, history or the Classics, one modern language, and one other subject, such as art or computer studies.

After completing the GCSE, some students leave school, others go onto technical college, whilst others continue at high school for two more years and take a further set of standardized exams, known as A levels, in three or four subjects. These exams determine whether a student is eligible for university.

Education stages:
What types of schools are there in Britain?

PRIMARY PHASE
(Key Stages 1 and 2)

SECONDARY PHASE
(Key Stages 3 and 4)

Infant Schools: 5-7 years

Junior Schools: 7-11 years

Primary Schools: 5-11 years

Secondary Schools:
11-16 or 11-18 years

Comprehensive Schools or
Grammar Schools

Key
Stage

School Year

Age

Types of Schools

 

Reception

5

 Infant School
5-7

Primary
Schools
5-11

 First Schools
5-8

1

Year 1

5-6

 

Year 2

6-7

2

Year 3

7-8

Junior Schools
7-11

 

Year 4

8-9

Middle Schools
8-12
or
9-13

 

Year 5

9-10

 

Year 6

10-11

3

Year 7

11-12

Grammar Schools 

 Secondary
Schools

(Comprehensive
or Grammar Schools )

 

Year 8

12-13

Junior High Schools
12-16

 

Year 9

13-14

4

Year 10

14-15

 

Year 11

15-16

FURTHER SECONDARY PHASE

TERTIARY PHASE

Sixth Form Colleges: 16-18 years

Colleges of Further Education: 16-18 years.

University 18 +  

What is the National Curriculum?
The national curriculum is compulsory in all state schools throughout England. It was introduced in 1988, and states what is taught in state schools. It is set by government guidelines. Find out more here……..

What are Sats?
Pupils are assessed at various stages throughout their education. These national curriculum tests are known as ‘Sats’.

Key stages
Under the National curriculum, as a result of the Education Reform Act 1988, four Key Stages were established. These are:

Key Stage 1: 5 to 7 years old
Key Stage 2: 7 to 11 years old
Key Stage 3: 11 to 14 years old
Key Stage 4: 14 to 16 years old

What type of Secondary Schools are there in England?
There are three main types of secondary schools -

Comprehensive

Grammar schools

High Schools

Comprehensive schools are open to all children.
Grammar schools require an entrance exam, they are selective schools. 
 

http://www.woodlands-junior.kent.sch.uk/customs/questions/education.html

 

 

感恩节的故事(The Thanksgiving Story)

Thursday, November 24th, 2005

Thanksgiving Day in America is a time to
offer thanks, of family gatherings and holiday meals. A time of
turkeys, stuffing, and pumpkin pie. A time for Indian corn, holiday
parades and giant balloons.

在美国,感恩节是一个感谢恩赐,家庭团聚,合家欢宴的日子;是一个家家餐桌上都有火鸡、填料、南瓜馅饼的日子;是一个充满了印第安玉米、假日游行和巨型气球的日子。

Thanksgiving is celebrated on the 4th Thursday of November, which this year (2005) is November 24th.

每年十一月的最后一个星期四是感恩节,在今年(2005)则是11月24日。下面让我们来看看感恩节的由来吧: The Pilgrims who sailed to this country aboard the Mayflower
were originally members of the English Separatist Church (a Puritan
sect). They had earlier fled their home in England and sailed to
Holland (The Netherlands) to escape religious persecution. There, they
enjoyed more religious tolerance, but they eventually became
disenchanted with the Dutch way of life, thinking it ungodly. Seeking a
better life, the Separatists negotiated with a London stock company to
finance a pilgrimage to America. Most of those making the trip aboard
the Mayflower were non-Separatists, but were hired to protect the
company’s interests. Only about one-third of the original colonists
were Separatists.

乘"五月花"来到这个国度的旅行者(朝圣者)
原本是英国分离者地下教会清教徒,他们的家在英国,因不堪忍受国内的宗教迫害,他们逃亡到荷兰。在荷兰,他们享受了更多的宗教信仰自由,但最终却意识到在
荷兰的这种生活方式是对他们的主的亵渎。为了寻求更好的生活,他们与伦敦贸易公司协商,由该公司资助他们到美国。在这趟旅途中,船上只有大约1/3的乘客
是清教徒,其他大多数人并非分离派清教徒,而是公司雇佣来保护其利益的人员(契约奴)。

The
Pilgrims set ground at Plymouth Rock on December 11, 1620. Their first
winter was devastating. At the beginning of the following fall, they
had lost 46 of the original 102 who sailed on the Mayflower.
But the harvest of 1621 was a bountiful one. And the remaining
colonists decided to celebrate with a feast — including 91 Indians who
had helped the Pilgrims survive their first year. It is believed that
the Pilgrims would not have made it through the year without the help
of the natives. The feast was more of a traditional English harvest
festival than a true "thanksgiving" observance. It lasted three days.

1620
年12月11日,旅行者们在"普利茅斯石"登陆。他们的第一个冬季是灾难性的,第二年秋天来临时,原来的102名乘客只剩下56人。但1621年他们获得
了大丰收,这些幸存的殖民者们决定和帮助他们度过困难的91名印第安人一起飨宴庆祝。他们相信,若没有当地居民的帮助,他们是不可能度过这一年的。这次节
日的盛宴不仅仅是一个"感恩"仪式,它更像英国传统的丰收庆典。庆典持续了三天。

Governor
William Bradford sent "four men fowling" after wild ducks and geese. It
is not certain that wild turkey was part of their feast. However, it is
certain that they had venison. The term "turkey" was used by the
Pilgrims to mean any sort of wild fowl.

总督布雷德福派了“四人捕鸟队”去捕捉野鸭和野鹅。我们现在并不能确定是否有野生火鸡在当时的筵席上,但筵席上肯定有鹿肉。当时,朝圣者用 "火鸡"一词来代表各种野禽。

Another
modern staple at almost every Thanksgiving table is pumpkin pie. But it
is unlikely that the first feast included that treat. The supply of
flour had been long diminished, so there was no bread or pastries of
any kind. However, they did eat boiled pumpkin, and they produced a
type of fried bread from their corn crop. There was also no milk,
cider, potatoes, or butter. There was no domestic cattle for dairy
products, and the newly-discovered potato was still considered by many
Europeans to be poisonous. But the feast did include fish, berries,
watercress, lobster, dried fruit, clams, venison, and plums.


在,几乎每家感恩节餐桌上都有南瓜馅饼――感恩节的另一种主食。但在当年的第一次庆典上却不可能有这种食品。因为面粉奇缺,所以面包、馅饼、糕点等食物都
没有。但他们却吃了煮南瓜,并用收获的玉米制成了一种油炸面包。也没有牛奶、苹果酒、土豆和黄油。没有驯养的奶牛,自然没有牛奶;而新发现的土豆被很多欧
洲人认为是有毒的。第一次庆典上有鱼、草莓、豆瓣菜、龙虾、干果、蛤、鹿肉、李子等。

This
"thanksgiving" feast was not repeated the following year. But in 1623,
during a severe drought, the pilgrims gathered in a prayer service,
praying for rain. When a long, steady rain followed the very next day,
Governor Bradford proclaimed another day of Thanksgiving, again
inviting their Indian friends. It wasn’t until June of 1676 that
another Day of Thanksgiving was proclaimed.


接着的第二年(1622)却没有举行"感恩"庆典。到了1623年,发生了一场严重的旱灾,朝圣者们聚集到一起,举行了虔诚的祁雨仪式,刚好在第二天,一
场充沛的大雨从天而降。威廉布雷德福总督宣布再次庆祝感恩节,并再次邀请了他们的印第安朋友。之后数年无感恩节,直到1676年6月,感恩节才再次被提
出。

On June 20, 1676, the governing
council of Charlestown, Massachusetts, held a meeting to determine how
best to express thanks for the good fortune that had seen their
community securely established. By unanimous vote they instructed
Edward Rawson, the clerk, to proclaim June 29 as a day of thanksgiving.
It is notable that this thanksgiving celebration probably did not
include the Indians, as the celebration was meant partly to be in
recognition of the colonists’ recent victory over the "heathen
natives,"

1676年6月20日,马萨诸塞州的查尔斯顿政府委员会召开了一次会议,讨论如何才能最好表达对主的谢意:主赐予
他们好运,庇佑他们安全地建立了他们的邦联。经过意见不统一的投票,由书记爱德华.劳森宣布6月29日为当年的感恩节。值得注意的是,因此次庆典在一定程
度上是殖民者对战胜"野蛮的土著人"的庆祝,故印第安人极有可能未参加此次庆典。


October of 1777 marked the first time that all 13 colonies joined in a
thanksgiving celebration. It also commemorated the patriotic victory
over the British at Saratoga. But it was a one-time affair.

1777年10月,13个殖民地第一次联合举办了感恩节庆典,这也是对萨拉托加一役中战胜英国人所取得的爱国主义的胜利的纪念。但只举行了这一年。

George
Washington proclaimed a National Day of Thanksgiving in 1789, although
some were opposed to it. There was discord among the colonies, many
feeling the hardships of a few Pilgrims did not warrant a national
holiday. And later, President Thomas Jefferson scoffed at the idea of
having a day of thanksgiving.

1789年,尽管出现反对的呼声,华盛顿总统还是宣布感恩节为全国性节日。在殖民地中也存在意见的分歧,不少人认为,仅仅一小撮朝圣者所经历的那些艰难困苦并不值得用一个全国节日来纪念。之后,杰弗逊总统还对这件事嗤之以鼻。

It
was Sarah Josepha Hale, a magazine editor, whose efforts eventually led
to what we recognize as Thanksgiving. Hale wrote many editorials
championing her cause in her Boston Ladies’ Magazine, and later, in Godey’s Lady’s Book.
Finally, after a 40-year campaign of writing editorials and letters to
governors and presidents, Hale’s obsession became a reality when, in
1863, President Lincoln proclaimed the last Thursday in November as a national day of Thanksgiving.


没有萨拉·J·黑尔――一位杂志编辑的努力,最终就不会有我们现在所谓的感恩节。在她主编的"波士顿妇女杂志"及稍后的"Godey’s
女士手册"中,她撰写了大量的社论,支持将感恩节定为全国性节日。40年中,她坚持不懈地发表评论,不断致信州长乃至总统,最后,理想终于变为现实:
1863年,林肯总统发表声明,将11月的最后一个星期四定为感恩节――一个全国性的节日。


Thanksgiving was proclaimed by every president after Lincoln. The date
was changed a couple of times, most recently by Franklin Roosevelt, who
set it up one week to the next-to-last Thursday in order to create a
longer Christmas shopping season. Public uproar against this decision
caused the president to move Thanksgiving back to its original date two
years later. And in 1941, Thanksgiving was finally sanctioned by
Congress as a legal holiday, as the fourth Thursday in November.


此历届总统都按此行事。但具体时间也发生过几次变化。最近的一次是富兰克林·罗斯福总统宣布的。为开创一个更长的圣诞购物季节,罗斯福总统宣布将感恩节日
期改在11月的倒数第二个星期四,即提前了一个星期。但公众反对呼声太高,两年后,总统不得不将感恩节日期改回到原来的时间。1941年,美国国会最终通
过决议,将感恩节定为美国法定假日,的时间是每年11月的最后一个星期四。

ZT 心理学教授谈记忆魔法–艾宾浩斯遗忘曲线

Sunday, November 13th, 2005

    人的大脑是一个记忆的宝库,人脑经历过的事物,思考过的问题,体验过的情感和情绪,练习过的 动作,都可以成为人们记忆的内容。例如英文的学习中单词、短语和句子,甚至文章的内容都是通过记忆完成的。从""""是有个过程的,这其中包括了识 记、保持、再认和回忆。有很多 
人在学习英语的过程中,只注重了学习当时的记忆效果,孰不知,要想做好学习的记忆工作,是要下一番工夫的,单纯的注重当时的记忆效果,而忽视了后期的保持和再认同样是达不到良好的效果的。
  在信息的处理上,记忆是对输入信息的编码、贮存和提取的过程,从信息处理的角度上,英文的第一次学习和背诵只是一个输入编码的过程。人的记忆的能力从
生理上讲是十分惊人的,它可以存贮1015比特(byte,字节)的信息,可是每个人的记忆宝库被挖掘的只占10%,还有更多的记忆发挥空间。这是因为,
有些人只关注了记忆的当时效果,却忽视了记忆中的更大的问题即记忆的牢固度问题,那就牵涉到心理学中常说的关于记忆遗忘的规律。

  一、艾宾浩斯记忆规律曲线解释
  德国有一位著名的心理学家名叫艾宾浩斯(Hermann Ebbinghaus1850- 1909),他在1885年发表了他的实验报告后,记忆研究就成了心理学中被研究最多的领域之一,而艾宾浩斯正是发现记忆遗忘规律的第一人。
  根据我们所知道的,记忆的保持在时间上是不同的,有短时的记忆和长时的记忆两种。而我们平时的记忆的过程是这样的:

 






















  输入的信息在经过人的注意过程的
学习后,便成为了人的短时的记忆,但是如果不经过及时的复习,这些记住过的东西就会遗忘,而经过了及时的复习,这些短
时的记忆就会成为了人的一种长时的记忆,从而在大脑中保持着很长的时间。那么,对于我们来讲,怎样才叫做遗忘呢,所谓遗忘就是我们对于曾经记忆过的东西不
能再认起来,也不能回忆起来,或者是错误的再认和错误的回忆,这些都是遗忘。艾宾浩斯在做这个实验的时候是拿自己作为测试对象的,他得出了一些关于记忆的
结论。他选用了一些根本没有意义的音节,也就是那些不能拼出单词来的众多字母的组合,比如aswwcfhhjijikmbrfyjbc等等。他经过
对自己的测试,得到了一些数据。


  


    然后,艾宾浩斯又根据了这些点描绘出了一条曲线,这就是非常有名的揭示遗忘规律的曲线:艾宾浩斯遗忘曲线,图中竖轴表示学习中记住的知识数量,横轴表示时间(天数),曲线表示记忆量变化的规律。


  


    这条曲线告诉人们在学习中的遗忘是有规律的,遗忘的进程不是均衡的,不是固定的一天丢掉几个,转天又丢几个的,而是在记忆的最初阶段遗忘的速度很快,
后来就逐渐减慢了,到了相当长的时候后,几乎就不再遗忘了,这就是遗忘的发展规律,即"先快后慢"的原则。观察这条遗忘曲线,你会发现,学得的知识在一天 后,如不抓紧复习,就只剩下原来的25%)。随着时间的推移,遗忘的速度减慢,遗忘的数量也就减少。有人做过一个实验,两组学生学习一段课文,甲组在学习
后不久进行一次复习,乙组不予复习,一天后甲组保持98%,乙组保持56%;一周后甲组保持83%,乙组保持33%。乙组的遗忘平均值比甲组高。

  二、不同性质材料有不同的遗忘曲线
  而且,艾宾浩斯还在关于记忆的实验中发现,记住12个无意义音节,平均需要重复16.5次;为了记住36个无意义章节,需重复54次;而记忆六首诗中 的480个音节,平均只需要重复8次!
这个实验告诉我们,凡是理解了的知识,就能记得迅速、全面而牢固。不然,愣是死记硬背,那也是费力不讨好的。因此,
比较容易记忆的是那些有意义的材料,而那些无意义的材料在记忆的时候比较费力气,在以后回忆起来的时候也很不轻松。因此,艾宾浩斯遗忘曲线是关于遗忘的一
种曲线,而且是对无意义的音节而言,对于与其他材料的对比,艾宾浩斯又得出了不同性质材料的不同遗忘曲线,不过他们大体上都是一致的。


  


    因此,艾宾浩斯的实验向我们充分证实了一个道理,学习要勤于复习,而且记忆的理解效果越好,遗忘的也越慢。

  三、不同的人有不同的艾宾浩斯记忆曲线个性化的艾宾浩斯
  上述的艾宾浩斯记忆曲线是艾宾浩斯在实验室中经过了大量测试后,产生了不同的记忆数据,从而生成的一种曲线,是一个具有共性的群体规律。此记忆曲线并不考虑接受试验个人的个性特点,而是寻求一种处于平衡点的记忆规律。
  但是记忆规律可以具体到我们每个人,因为我们的生理特点、生活经历不同,可能导致我们有不同的记忆习惯、记忆方式、记忆特点。规律对于自然人改造世界
的行为,只能起一个催化的作用,如果与每个人的记忆特点相吻合,那么就如顺水扬帆,一日千里;如果与个人记忆特点相悖,记忆效果则会大打折扣。因此,我们 要根据每个人的不同特点,寻找到属于自己的艾宾浩斯记忆曲线。

(作者系南开大学心理学教授 博士生导师)

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[转载]走进孩子内心的12张卡片— 斯宾塞的快乐教育

Sunday, November 13th, 2005

斯宾塞这样说:"爱,真的需要说出来。美好的情感当你说出来时,也会唤起别人同样美好的情感。"

在对孩子教育的问题上,大多数的家庭常常不知道从何入手。孩子在想什么?面临怎样的问题?孩子的内心世界就像一个藏满秘密的盒子。在这个盒子里,有动物、有人物、有梦境、有情绪,杂乱无章地塞在里面。如果不经常打开来看看,有一天当你不经意地打开时,也许会从里面跑出一只老鼠来,吓你一大跳。
对于小斯宾塞来说,我们同样想知道他的内心世界,因为这是我开始快乐教育的第一步。一天晚上,我们在家里玩我设计的一种12张纸牌的游戏,只是这不是一般的纸牌,而是12张我事先写好的卡片。我和小斯宾塞还有德赛娜轮流掷骰子,掷到哪个数,就取出这张卡片,回答上面的问题。这12个问题是:

(1)讲一讲你最不快乐的事情。
(2)
讲一件你觉得自己做得最好的事情。
(3)
评价一个你周围的人。
(4)
今年你最希望得到什么(只限3)?
(5)
你对自己有什么不满意的?
(6)
哪件事,你努力了,但成效不大?
(7)
深呼吸3次。
(8)
拥抱一下你喜欢的人。
(9)说一说你做的一个梦。
(10)生日的时候你最想得到什么礼物?


我们轮流掷骰子,抽取卡片。轮到小斯宾塞了,他抽到讲一讲你最不快乐的事。他说:我最不快乐的是常常在夜里梦见一个巨大的怪物,我不知道它是什么,我非常害怕,以致在白天我都经常会想到它。
当他抽到评价一个你周围的人时,小斯宾塞说:我讨厌凯勒太太,她总是在有很多人的场合讽刺我,说我是斯宾塞家的书呆子。
当轮到我掷骰子时,我抽到了今年你最希望得到哪三件东西。我严肃地说,我最希望的是小斯宾塞能够懂得三件事,一是懂得快乐学习的秘密,二是懂得自助教育是人生中最有益的,三是要有健康的体魄和心智。
尽管我知道小斯宾塞不完全听得懂我说的话,因为他毕竟还是一个孩子,但我认为在孩提时代,父母郑重地阐述一点道理,和给他讲故事、玩游戏一样重要,他也许不会全懂,但他会受到感染。
通过这个12张卡片的游戏,我也了解了他的一些内心秘密。对于他抽到的那两张卡片,我是这样向他解释的:亲爱的小斯宾塞,梦境是白天身体和意识的反映,你梦中的怪物一定是白天遇到过的使你恐惧的人或者事。是谁呢?是疯子劳尔吗(劳尔是镇上一个可怜的疯子,他经常手里拿着一根又脏又粗的木棒,嘴里叽叽咕咕,不知道说些什么。他一看见孩子就追,已经有好几个孩子被他吓哭了)?”小斯宾塞说:不是,我反而有些可怜他。倒是铜匠巴斯特的儿子,每次我路过时他都凶狠地恨着我,还向我吐口水,我不敢和他说话,总是害怕地走开。我知道小斯宾塞梦里的怪物是怎么回事了,我说:孩子,你从来没给我们说过这件事,现 在好了,你一旦说出你心里害怕的事,就不会害怕了。其实,这个孩子也很可怜,他母亲得了一种奇怪的病,家里的钱都拿去给他母亲看病了,以致他已经8岁多了,还不能去上学。我们周末去看看他,顺便也给他母亲送点药去,你说好吗?”小斯宾塞点了点头。
至于你对凯勒太太的评价,我认为没有错。她这样做是不对的。下次她再这样说你时,你就告诉她,恶言和恶行一样是有罪的。
晚上,我把小斯宾塞的卧室清理了一番,把窗户打开一点,并给他换上了干净的床单。第二天,小斯宾塞告诉我,他梦里的怪物不见了,他昨晚睡得很香、很甜。
12
张卡片的游戏在我们家里经常都会做。除了我和小斯宾塞,有时还有一些邻居的小孩子参与。
我没有想到,后来许多英国家庭都做这种12张卡片游戏。有的还在里面加进了讲笑话、表演节目等,这样当然更有趣一些。通过玩这种游戏,亲子和教育的功能都达到了。再后来,连美国、瑞典、德国和法国的家庭也玩这个游戏。非常荣幸的是,后来人们把这个游戏命名为斯宾塞纸牌

2 、数字跳房
    家庭中的教具是根据孩子的特点来设计的,目的是在充满乐趣中把孩子训练得更有用。从教育的生物学特征来看,教育就是使一个小生命在身体和心智上不断得到完善,并使它更加适应生活事务的过程。鸟对羽毛新长成的小鸟的行为,猫和小猫玩耍行为,就是在诱导小鸟、小猫锻炼其肢体,知觉和本能。
        小斯宾塞对数学反应的迟缓,一度使我苦恼,使我不得不发明一些东西在这方面训练他,数字跳房就是这样产生的。把1—9010个数字依次写在9 宫格里,我和小斯宾塞在这个跳房里玩游戏,第一阶段是从19的数字概念游戏,很简单,数到几,就跳几步。不久,小斯宾塞对数有了一个基本概念。接下来,是数的差、和、积、商的关系,也在跳房里玩,两个下午就会了。最后是九九乘法表,这对以后的运算是必不可少的。小斯宾塞开始总也记不住,或者总会出错,我 就在九宫格外面把得数写出来,画在一个圆圈里,小斯宾塞厌倦了我们就停下来,没过多久,他自己又去玩,这样次数多了,这些九九乘法就深深印在他的记忆里了。
        有时我会感叹:人的教育,多像鸟儿对小鸟的训练啊。
        随着小斯宾塞年龄的增大,这些在他童年玩和学的教具便不再有用了,他自己又去寻找新的教具,比如光学方面的凸透镜和凹透镜等等。

3 孩子在快乐的状态下学习最有效
        随着小斯宾塞慢慢长大,到家里来请教教育方法的邻居和朋友越来越多,有的甚至从很远的威克渥斯和伊雷顿赶来。几乎所有的问题都是:如何教育孩子。
       这使我必须对教育的一些原理性的问题进行总结。
       要知道如何教育孩子,首先要知道孩子在什么样的状态下学习最有效。经过数年来的对小斯宾塞的教育和大量心理学的研究,我认为,孩子在快乐的状态下学习是最 有效的。这也许会使公立学校的校长老师不以为然。要知道,这与传统教育所讲的许多清规戒律大相径庭。难道家长把孩子送到学校,就是让他们玩吗?”“与其这样,还不如让他们自己玩更好,因为那样最快乐。
       遗憾的是,持这种观点的人,尽管也在教育孩子,但是很少对孩子进行研究。他们在自己因袭已久的教育规则中机械地工作着。尽管他们有时严厉得像一座凶狠的塑像,或者大声训斥的声音整条街都听得到,但教育的效果却很差。
       我曾做过一个实验,带两群孩子来到德文特河边,我告诉其中一群孩子:我一发出口令你们就跑到教堂那里去,那里正在举行婚礼,先跑到的有可能会得到小糖果。另一群孩子我只是告诉他们:你们要尽快跑到教堂那里,越快越好,谁落后我就会惩罚谁。随着我的一声口令,两群孩子都飞快地跑起来,要知道从河边到教堂不是一段很短的路程。结果呢,知道教堂在进行婚礼的孩子,先跑到的很多,而且到了以后,大多还很兴奋。而另一群孩子,有的掉队了,有的干脆跑了一半就停下来了。停下来的孩子多了,大家也就不怕惩罚了。
       从这个实验可以看出,一群孩子在开始跑的时候,就把跑到教堂这件事当成了一件快乐的事,因此跑起来就轻松得多,而另一群孩子则把跑到教堂这件事当做了一个命令,只是被动地去执行,尽管有惩罚的威胁,但仍然作用不大。
       当然,孩子的快乐是多种多样的,大多是没有社会目的的,教育则是要引导孩子得到有目的的快乐。因此,对于教育者来说,应该先让孩子们快乐起来,然后再给出可行的目标。


4
、让家庭给孩子快乐的力量
    
不是每个人都能完全改变孩子的境遇,即使父母已经意识到这种不快乐境遇对孩子的坏影响。但是,几乎每个父母都可以改变自己的家庭。为什么有的家庭总能够帮助孩子应付各种问题,有的却不能,反而会因此埋怨孩子呢?我认为家庭是否能够给孩子力量,取决于成员之间的感情和思想联系的密切程度。因为不管孩子在外面遇到什么,家庭是他的加油站,是他的坚强后盾。
我在一次家长座谈会上,给热切希望得到帮助的父母,提出了九个建议:

1、家庭共聚的时间是神圣的
有一次,我问小斯宾塞,在他记忆中最美好的生活片断是什么?这时小斯宾塞已以优异的成绩考上剑桥大学,他说:是每天晚上我们聚在餐桌前,一起祈祷、一起闲聊的时候。

2、互相认识可以使孩子获得心灵的力量
我们是一家人,难道彼此还需要认识吗?”人们也许会这样问。但实际情况如何呢?我们可能熟知的只是对方的名字、长相。做父母的常常只注意现实的家庭琐事或家庭开支这样的事情,而没有时间和兴趣去探知自己以及孩子的感情。你曾有几次和家人坐下来谈你的理想、目标呢?你又有几次向孩子们询问:你担心什么?你相信什么?你快乐和不快乐的事是什么?

不要担心这会浪费时间,相反,大量去做与这些不相关的事,才是真正的浪费时间。

3、适当地让孩子为家庭分忧
很多父母像遇到疾病、经济紧张、亲人死亡的事,常常会瞒着孩子。他们的理由是怕孩子被吓住。其实,大可不必这样,只要你在讲述时不去夸大,而且表现得有信心,孩子是不会被吓住的。如果完全对他们隐瞒,他们大多会把事情想得更糟,或者有被抛弃和不被重视的感觉。
孩子也只有在这些事情中才能培养起生活必需的勇气。
如果有兄弟姐妹病了,或者父母及祖父病重,应该让孩子知道,并让他参与跑腿办事,买药、送信,这样才能在生活中培养他们处变不惊的镇定和勇气。如果有财务困难而完全不告诉孩子,他们会猜想到可能没有饭吃或没有地方住,而实际情况也许只是放弃一些奢侈品而已。

4、珍视全家一起用晚餐的时光
即使最忙碌的时候,每个星期也应至少有一两个晚上和孩子轻松地用餐,而这时不要数落孩子的不足。
有一句古老的格言我希望出现在每个家庭的餐桌旁:一家人吃饭时是争论还是谈话,是称赞还是训斥,是一个很好的测量计,它可以看出这个家庭是在疏远分离,还是越来越亲近。
适当的时候,要鼓励孩子请他的朋友来家做客,这样可以让父母认识子女的朋友,也使孩子感到自己在家里受尊重。

5、定期和孩子合作完成一件事
在任何群体里都是这样,某个人提出一件大家都感兴趣的事去做,会使所有人的心情为之振奋。
我经常和小斯宾塞一起合作去做一件事,比如种植植物,比如把许多散乱的照片整理成家庭影集或一起烤出一盘香气扑鼻的面包。
我们合作的最大的一件事,是制作一张大餐桌。我们一起选木料、设计草图,经过n个星期的努力,当餐桌做成时,我们互相对望着,高兴得叫了起来。后来,这张餐桌成了我和小斯宾塞的纪念品。

6、建立相对固定的家庭传统和仪式
根据我父亲和祖父的一些惯例,我认为相对固定的家庭传统和仪式,会让孩子对家庭产生必要的敬畏和归宿感,也能培养孩子从小学会区别哪些是一般的事和哪些是重要的、有特别意义的事。
到教堂参加礼拜、春天出去远足、秋天登高、特别的生日晚会……

7、不可缺席的游戏
和孩子一起做游戏,这是动物也会的事,但并不是每个父母都愿意。在游戏中一定要公平,不能因为他们是孩子而轻慢他们。
我最让小斯宾塞伤心的是,有一次我们在月光下捉迷藏,等他躲好以后,我突然想起有一件很重要的事要做,没和他打招呼就离开了。最后小斯宾塞的失望和伤心使我内疚了好几年。

8、在孩子睡觉前给他讲一些家庭里的往事
爷爷是怎样白手起家创办学校的?最早我们从什么地方搬来,那时这里是什么样子?我是如何开始写作的?这些事有时会比讲虚构的故事对孩子的吸引力还大,同时这会让孩子体会到亲密、体贴的感觉。

9、没有距离的家庭
我一度在家族里编写了一份家族通讯,要求每个人都加一点自己的消息上去。我希望每个孩子都能参与,并从另一种角度来看待家庭和生活。
想想吧,亲爱的女士、先生们,家庭能传递给孩子的力量是如此巨大,什么不快乐都会被克服。同时,孩子也会在参与活动的过程中,逐步形成不同于一般儿童的价值观。

5、让孩子学会快乐的自我暗示
爱默生说一个人就是他整天想到的东西;马可奥略留说一个人的生活就是他想成为的样子;威廉詹姆斯也说我们最大的发现就是,通过改变头脑的观念,我们可以改变生活。
对孩子来说尤其如此,如果一个孩子一再怀疑自己的记忆力,他就真的记不住。同样,如果有一个人成天担心自己在变老,他也一定会很快变老。
事情真的就是如此神奇!让一个孩子每天重复说:我恨自己,我真的恨自己为什么我老出错,结果他几乎无法做对任何一件事。这就是自我暗示的作用。
有一次,小斯宾塞突然问我一个问题是不是我们家的人都有神经衰弱的毛病,我大吃一惊。原来,他看了一本书,这本书里谈到了这样一个观点,一个孩子如果过早地懂得很多知识,他一定会患上神经衰弱的毛病。于是神经衰弱这个词就一直停留在他的记忆里,怎么也无法忘记。他总把各种身体方面的异样感觉归结到神经衰弱上面。
神经衰弱,这种自我暗示成了小斯宾塞的一道心理障碍。我必须通过交谈和其他的一些方法来排除小斯宾塞内心的这种障碍。我使用的方法其实很简单,我让小斯宾塞每天早晨起床就说:我的身体和头脑真是太好了感激父母和上帝,他们给我的一切都如此完美。开始他只是小声地说,后来我告诉他,不要犹豫,用你尽可能大的声音去说。
这两句话在一个多月以后,再也听不到了,因为小斯宾塞的